Posts Tagged ‘detachment emotional’

Against Dogma

Monday, December 14th, 2009

beware_of_dogmaOne of the chapters in Chu’s Thick Face, Black Heart affected me deeply. It was called, “Master the Distinctions Between Virtue and Vanity.” She used a parable to explain the concept: a holy man had taken a vow of honesty. He sat beneath a tree, meditating, when a man ran up. He told the holy man that he was wrongly accused of thievery and being chased by ruffians who would kill him. The holy man could see that he was, indeed, innocent. The man climbed into the tree and hid himself among the leaves. But when the ruffians came and asked the holy man if he had seen the supposed thief, the holy man ratted him out, all because of his vow of honesty. They dragged the innocent man from the tree and killed him. When the holy man died and went before judgment he was admonished for this act. God said, “It was not for the sake of virtue that you delivered the innocent man to his tormentors, it was to preserve a vain image of yourself as a virtuous person.”

In other words, in business as in life, do not adhere blindly to any dogma. Your belief in absolute truths only serves to help you gain praise from others with the same convictions. It allows you to be self-righteous about your supposed virtue and feel superior to others. Meanwhile you are living outside of the world, bringing suffering to others because of your selfish convictions as to absolute right and wrong. This belief in an absolute truth comes into play in every political election, where the various parties battle for the supremacy of one set of beliefs. Those who acknowledge that there are times to utilize each belief system appropriately are degraded as traitors, or worse:  loathed “independents” with no chance to win.

Ignorance has guided the idea of virtue since time immemorial. In ancient China, a girl’s virginity was so sacred that if she was raped by soldiers in invading armies—a relatively common occurrence—she would be forced to drink poison to kill herself. When Galileo publicized his finding that the earth revolved around the sun, “virtuous” members of the Catholic Church condemned him and imprisoned him for contradicting their supposedly infallible beliefs. In the U.S., in the 1950’s, innocent citizens were impoverished and imprisoned because of senator Joseph McCarthy’s misguided obsession with capitalist “virtue.”

Chu makes the point that virtue, contrary to what most people think, is not something you wear outside of yourself for public display. Unlike the western philosophical tradition, where we try to guide our lives by absolutes such as those contained in the following aphorisms:

  • Turn the other check,
  • Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,
  • A stitch in time saves nine,
  • The squeaky wheel gets the grease,

etc. . . .

The Chinese viewpoint acknowledges that these philosophies are never absolute, but that life, and morality, require more of a person than simple adherence to law. They require moment-to-moment mediation on one’s inner convictions.

Fear of Success Psychology

Saturday, December 12th, 2009

adultitisThe fear of success is much more powerful than the fear of failure. So says Chu in her book on using the Asian mindset for success in business, Thick Face, Black Heart.

This is because success brings change, and change brings uncertainty. Most of the things you think you want will come at the price of leaving behind your familiar life and venturing into the unknown. As a result, most people think they are striving for success, but in reality are just going through the motions. They haven’t mentally prepared themselves for change.

Failure takes many forms. There is the failure of those who never attempt anything great. Their failures are comfortably private. The failures of those who attempt extraordinary things are public. Those suffering ordinary failures often feel free to comment on the grandiose failures of those attempting great things. Says Chu, “When we don’t pay our bills, a computer somewhere writes us a nasty letter. When Donald Trump doesn’t pay his bills, it makes the six o’clock news.”

Putting yourself in the position to be criticized and ridiculed is, of course, unpleasant, but where would society be today without thinkers like Socrates and Galileo? They suffered deeply for their convictions, but were, in essence, more successful and satisfied people than their tormentors. Their ideas are now immortal. But how could anyone, today, stand to endure so much discomfort, pain, and persecution for the sake of an inner conviction? The key, says Chu, is to understand that the world is perfect.

An old saying goes, “If you don’t like the world you see, change the prescription of your glasses.” The point being: there is nothing wrong with the world but your view of it. I have a lot of friends who are at that age where they need to decide if they want to have children or not. For a woman, a certain time comes when (barring the use of a great deal of the latest technology) it’s simply “now or never.” A lot of them hesitate, saying, “is this really a world I want to bring a child into? Society is getting worse and worse every year!” Then they go on to cite everything from corn-fed cattle to the war in Iraq to support their theory.

I say hey, if you don’t want to have a baby, then don’t, but that is a preposterous reason. The world has always been screwed up. Think of the early sixties, when everyone thought an atom bomb could drop at any minute. Think of the thirties and the Great Depression. Think of medieval times and the black plague. And all through history, people have been saying, “How could I ever bring a child into this terrible world?!”

The world is perfect. It is ever changing. Every swing of the pendulum brings a counter swing. So, says Chu, have no fear of success and the changes it will bring.

Selfish Interest

Wednesday, December 9th, 2009

rockNot caring about the opinions of others—as is recommended by the Thick Face aspect of Chu’s Thick Face, Black Heart philosophy—means finding the courage to do what must be done without regard to what people think. It means examining the role you play in your company, your family, and your world, and freeing yourself from the domination of arbitrary ideals. This is the inner work that will make you truly a free person and a powerful person.

One reason that some of today’s most powerful people are that way is that they do what must be done to succeed without regard for the opinions of others. They are (to use a popular Zen Bhuddist term) detached. But this is not, as some might suppose, an insistence upon becoming amoral and self-centered. It is a recognition of the fact that you, as a caring, sensitive person, must pursue your own legitimate self interest in order to stay that way. After all, most thieves aren’t that way because they want to hurt people, they have simply turned to thievery out of desperation. They hit rock bottom and had nowhere else to go. Wouldn’t it have been better if they had exercised a little legitimate self interest along the way and kept themselves out of the red?

The key to this philosophy, of course, is the word ‘legitimate.’ When is your self interest legitimate, and when not? The key, says Chu in Thick Face, Black Heart, is to fully understand the motives for your own actions. If the motives are pure, then it is legitimate to engage in “warfare” to pursue them. In this case, I mean playing the various games of business and sales. Is she saying the ends justify the means? Not exactly. What she is saying is that what you do is not so important as WHY you do it.

Are you using manipulative sales tactics because you have been taught this is the way to success, yet it makes you feel bad inside? Then you are not working with your own inner convictions. You are following imposed standards of “work” for imposed standards of “success.” Are you enforcing a recycling program at work because you’ve been told that “going green” is the right thing to do, yet you don’t actually care about it and find the whole thing messy and inefficient? Then, again, you are not working with your inner convictions. The purpose of the Thick Face, Black Heart philosophy is not to tell you what is right and what is wrong, in terms of the actions you take in life—it is to urge you to follow your own inner dictates.

Will you make mistakes? Yes, you will. You will follow convictions that you find, in the end, were wrongheaded. However, and this is key to the philosophy—“Mistakes made on the path to self-discovery will correct themselves, while those made through blind adherence to subjective standards simply perpetuate the folly.”